Admitting that it’s time to break up is never easy. Sometimes it’s difficult because we’re kidding ourselves and refusing to see that the relationship is past its ‘sell by’ date.
Moving on from a relationship is hard, it’s harder when it’s years down expecting things would change only to start right all over again.
It’s hard to let go especially in a relationship you’ve settled in to go the whole way, it’s also not easy to start all over again but most times actually, starting over may present the best you only imagine in your wildest thoughts.
While you should put your self first always, be reasonable about happenings, try to be fair to the other person you are involved with when goals, feelings, beliefs and more don’t align and the relationship becomes more of an automatic chore, then it’ time to think and take action.
When it’s time to leave a relationship, if you search inwards, deep down you’d know from where daily/constant communication stops (one party stops calling or making future plans) to other deep rooted issues, these signs are sure ones it’s time to move on from a relationship:
But if you’re having problems, you talk to them, and it’s still not getting any better, sometimes it’s just time to move on. Here are the things to be on the lookout for:
When it gets to a point where a party or even both puts little or no effort into the relationship, stop caring about what the other person feels, likes, preferences or even looks like and the relationship becomes a series of programmed excitement, it’s time to move on. If you care about someone everything they do/are will matter to you, when this goes out the window so has the relationship.
2. Hurting without remorse
When a party or parties involved in a relationship hurt each other with their actions and repeat the same thing over and over- sometimes throwing in a casual sorry but nothing changes and intentionally hurting each other then it’s time to move on, sadly.
3. You don’t feel bad/remorse after cheating on your partner
Cheating here not only means having random/casual sex with everyone but your partner but flirting uncontrollably with others even while still dating without feeling bad about it then you might just be over your partner in which case, move on.
4. Little or Zero Communication
When there’s a breakdown in communication (after several attempts to try to fix things), you can’t seem to both agree on anything and more then it’s time to go separate ways.
5. No warmth
When there’s no warmth (those fuzzy feelings, the cuddly hugs, the in between soft touches etc) as well as lack of intimacy or even wanting one then there’s a problem and if this is explored and it remains the same then it’s time to keep it moving
When a relationship is more pain/more tears than laughter, physical and emotional abuse then it’s time to leave. Being in a relationship should come with joys, laughter and even when tough times call they should be ‘lovingly’ dealt with.
7. Beliefs and values are different
When beliefs and values greatly differ, then it most likely won’t work. Trying to change the other person is usually fruitless.
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